Yesterday, I accompanied a friend to a custom color analysis consultation with my teacher and mentor, Donna Cognac. It was a wonderful day and I felt privileged to have been a part of the process, as I always am with my own clients. There’s nothing quite like helping someone connect with their true essence and giving them the tools to express that authenticity in the outside world.
After the session was over, my friend, who had had some unsuccessful color analyses in the past, remarked how the new colors felt so right, and how she had always suspected that those colors were right for her, only to be told by previous color consultants that she was wrong. These comments made me think yet again about the power of our own inner voice. People like color analysts, style consultants, coaches, spiritual teachers, and healers can be incredibly helpful guides, supporters, even cheerleaders throughout the process of discovering who we are. But no one can ever replace your own inner voice. You may experience fear and self-doubt; you may not want to acknowledge it; but on some level, you always know.
Of course it’s very important to consider other opinions and advice. Outside perspectives can be incredibly illuminating, provided they are offered in the spirit of unconditional support. A thoughtful consultant or guide will always tell you to give new ideas some time, to let them digest a bit instead of rejecting them outright, but in the end to do what feels right to you, since the responsibility of the final choice is, and should always be, yours. In the end you may end up accepting the information, or feeling even more certain that it’s wrong. But if someone is telling you in no uncertain terms that you don’t know yourself, that all your intuition and hunches about yourself are wrong, they are taking away your power. Knowingly or not, they are stripping away your faith, your self-confidence, and your sacred right to make your own choices.
The truth is, we all go through disempowering experiences at one time or another. They are there to teach us, to push us forward, to challenge our self-perceptions. Today I want to encourage you to never give up on your inner voice, despite what anyone, and I mean anyone, tells you. All you need to do is to quiet the inner doubts and fears and really listen. The strength, power, and beauty of that voice you’ll hear may surprise you.